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relationship ratio
5:1 is the magical relationship ratio! For every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy relationship has five or more...
Elise Smithmier
Aug 6, 20201 min read


how to communicate when you feel defensive
#ThursdayThought When we experience a perceived attack or threat from our partner, we may react defensively by shifting blame elsewhere,...
Elise Smithmier
Jul 29, 20201 min read


when to seek couples counseling
Timing is everything when it comes to couples counseling. Most couples wait years before discussing the option of counseling, causing a...
Elise Smithmier
Jun 13, 20201 min read


seek to understand
Change happens when we honor our diversities by viewing them as strengths rather than weaknesses. Seek to understand, not assume or...
Elise Smithmier
Jun 1, 20201 min read


communicate with success
When communicating with your partner, use this structure: "I feel ______, and I need ______." This avoids the potential of criticizing or...
Elise Smithmier
May 18, 20201 min read
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