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Elise Smithmier
Oct 10, 20211 min read
ghosting sucks
Ghosting sucks. ⠀ ⠀ Cutting off communication with someone without any kind of an explanation can cause feelings of rejection,...

Elise Smithmier
Aug 27, 20201 min read
let's talk about sex
For many, sex is a taboo topic. Not talking about sex can end up causing feelings of shame, inadequacy, and fear, as well as create...

Elise Smithmier
Aug 6, 20201 min read
relationship ratio
5:1 is the magical relationship ratio! For every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy relationship has five or more...

Elise Smithmier
Jul 29, 20201 min read
how to communicate when you feel defensive
#ThursdayThought When we experience a perceived attack or threat from our partner, we may react defensively by shifting blame elsewhere,...

Elise Smithmier
Jul 15, 20201 min read
life's small moments
#ThursdayThought It's that inside joke. It's the fight you don't pick. It's the touch when you walk by. It's the benefit of the doubt you...

Elise Smithmier
Jul 8, 20201 min read
people need people
#ThursdayThought People need people. Authentic, vulnerable, and present people.

Elise Smithmier
Jun 13, 20201 min read
when to seek couples counseling
Timing is everything when it comes to couples counseling. Most couples wait years before discussing the option of counseling, causing a...

Elise Smithmier
Jun 1, 20201 min read
seek to understand
Change happens when we honor our diversities by viewing them as strengths rather than weaknesses. Seek to understand, not assume or...

Elise Smithmier
May 18, 20201 min read
communicate with success
When communicating with your partner, use this structure: "I feel ______, and I need ______." This avoids the potential of criticizing or...
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